As I was browsing through the internet today, I came across this short article. “The Five Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman. Gary Chapman is the author of “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”, it is often the case that love is there and being expressed, but not in the “language” that the loved one understands. Each of us has a primary language of love…ways that we express love, and things we see as expressions of love. If we can learn and use each other’s love language, we can increase the quality in our relationships.

Gary Chapman identifies these five love languages as:

Words of Affirmation. An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and words of encouragement are very powerful. Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

Quality Time. This means togetherness and personal connection, not just being physically nearby. Having a quality conversation, really listening to each other. Taking time to have fun together. Doing things you each enjoy; exploring new activities together.

Receiving Gifts. The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning of the gift, the thought behind it. A favorite treat picked up on the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.

Acts of Service. Cooking, washing the car, or doing the laundry can be acts of love. Challenge the stereotypes. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of love.

Physical Touch. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating love. Research indicates that positive physical contact is important to emotional health; some say you need four hugs a day.

Did you read that? A person need FOUR hugs a day. Where is my hug of the day?